Category: Personal

  • What Grover Taught Us About Fear and Leadership

    What Grover Taught Us About Fear and Leadership

    This post is the second in a new series exploring leadership lessons tucked inside childhood classics. If you missed the first—on elephants, sneezes, and innovation—you can find it here.

    A Puppet, a Page, and a Pause

    One of my most vivid memories from childhood is my dad reading The Monster at the End of This Book. But he didn’t just read it. He performed it. Grover wasn’t just a character. With a blue puppet in hand and a gravely voice, my dad turned each page into theater.

    Each night, Grover begged me not to turn the page. He built walls. He tied knots. He panicked. And, of course, I turned the page anyway. I had to see what was coming.

    Spoiler: The “monster” at the end of the book… was Grover himself.

    He feared what he didn’t understand. He made assumptions. He underestimated both me and himself.

    Sound familiar? (Certainly does to me!)

    When Leaders Pull a Grover

    In leadership, we sometimes panic about what’s ahead. We put up barriers. We try to control the pace of change. We yell, “Don’t turn the page yet!” believing we’re protecting others. But real empathy doesn’t mean controlling the narrative. It means walking with people through it.

    Empathetic leadership says:

    • I won’t rush you.
    • I won’t minimize your fear.
    • I will sit beside you and turn the page when you’re ready.

    What If We All Just Turned the Page?

    Whether we’re implementing new technologies, navigating tough decisions, or supporting someone through a tough transition, there’s always a Grover in the room, scared of the unknown, convinced the end of the book holds doom.

    And maybe we are Grover sometimes.

    But what if we just… turned the page anyway?

    With empathy.
    With curiosity.
    And with someone beside us.

    Like my dad. It wasn’t just the puppet or the funny voice. It was that my dad fully entered my world. He didn’t try to fix Grover. He didn’t roll his eyes or fast-forward to the end. He honored the moment, and me, page by page.

    Let’s Keep Reading Together

    This series is reminding me how much childhood stories still shape my adult lens. If a children’s book has ever changed your perspective on leadership or learning, I’d love to hear about it.

    Drop your favorite title in the comments and let’s turn some pages together.

    P.S. It was only a few years ago that my Grover puppet finally met his demise.

  • “Stand Back,” Said the Elephant: What a Children’s Book Taught Me About Leadership, Innovation, and Intentional Impact

    “Stand Back,” Said the Elephant: What a Children’s Book Taught Me About Leadership, Innovation, and Intentional Impact

    “Stand Back,” Said the Elephant: When Leadership Echoes Louder Than We Think

    The other day, I was chatting with a new mom, trading favorite childhood books, when one came rushing back to me:
    Stand Back,” Said the Elephant, “I’m Going to Sneeze!

    If you’ve read it, you know how it goes. A giant elephant announces he’s about to sneeze and total jungle chaos breaks out. Birds panic. Monkeys flip. Even the crocodile gets nervous.

    Why? Because the last time he sneezed, the whole forest turned upside down.

    As a kid, I thought it was hilarious.
    Reading it now, I see something else entirely.

    Leadership (and Sneezes) Are Bigger Than They Seem

    The elephant wasn’t being reckless. He wasn’t out to scare anyone. In fact, he gave fair warning. But still, his sneeze carried a force he couldn’t fully control. His size made even a simple act feel seismic.

    That image has stuck with me. Not just because it’s funny, but because it’s true.

    In leadership, we often forget how much weight our words and decisions carry. What feels like a small adjustment, such as a platform update or a new policy, can send ripples through a whole system.

    To us, it’s just a sneeze.
    To others, it might feel like the whole jungle is shaking.

    Leading Innovation with Intention

    At our charter school, we’re stepping into bold new territory: integrating artificial intelligence and virtual reality to create immersive, student-centered learning experiences.

    It’s exciting, no doubt. But we’re not doing it just because it’s cutting-edge. We’re doing it because we believe it can deepen learning, elevate student voice, and open doors to new ways of thinking and creating.

    And that means being intentional at every step.

    This kind of innovation requires more than cool tools. It requires care. It requires asking: Are our teachers supported? Are students engaged, not just entertained? Is this helping them grow, or just adding noise?

    We’re not handing students a VR headset and saying, “Go.” We’re inviting them to explore the moon, to train with an AI-powered speaking coach, to step into simulations where empathy, critical thinking, and creativity all matter.

    Yes, we’re introducing new tech. But more importantly, we’re creating new opportunities for students to see themselves as capable, curious, and connected.

    The Pause Before the Sneeze

    What I keep coming back to is this: the elephant didn’t sneeze without warning. He paused. He looked around. He gave everyone a chance to prepare.

    That’s leadership.

    It’s not just about vision or bold ideas. It’s about noticing who’s in your path and being thoughtful about how your actions might affect them. It’s asking: Who will this impact? Are they ready? What support do they need?

    Because innovation without awareness can flatten people.
    But with empathy, it can lift them.

    At Elite Academic, we ask ourselves these questions constantly:

    • Is this truly serving students?
    • Are we empowering teachers, not overwhelming them?
    • Does this leave room for curiosity, for voice, for choice?

    Sometimes, the most important thing a leader can do is pause, take a breath, and ask:
    Is now the right time to sneeze?

    The Books That Stay With Us

    I didn’t expect a children’s book to circle back into my life like this. But it did, and not just for the nostalgia.

    It reminded me that leadership isn’t always about big moves or dramatic moments. More often, it’s about the quiet awareness of how much our presence can shape what happens around us. Even small decisions can carry weight. Even good intentions can have unintended effects.

    And sometimes, the most important thing we can do is slow down long enough to notice that.

    I’m still smiling at the story. But now, I’m also thinking about what it means to move through the world, especially as a leader, with care.

    So now I’m curious:
    Has a children’s book ever stuck with you in an unexpected way?
    What story from your childhood keeps showing up in your thinking today?

    I’d genuinely love to hear it.

  • Discover the Power of Reverse Pet Peeves for Joy

    Discover the Power of Reverse Pet Peeves for Joy

    A friend sent me an article about happiness called, “Happiness doesn’t have to be a heavy lift.” Something that resonated was a portion on reverse pet peeves, which are those small things that bring disproportionate joy.
    Ironically, right after I finished reading it, I was sent a copy of a photo from a work event a couple weeks ago, which is a perfect reverse pet peeve moment. Hugging an incredible team member who was honored with a staff award. The joy wasn’t just in the recognition. It was in the applause, the smiles, the shared pride.
    It reminded me how much magic lives in these little moments.
    Joy doesn’t always come in grand gestures. Sometimes, it shows up in a midday celebration, a surprise thank-you, or the feeling of being seen.
    I challenge you to recognize a reverse pet peeve this week and share it.

  • Turn Up the Music, Even on the Rainy Days

    Turn Up the Music, Even on the Rainy Days

    Every time this commercial pops up on Hulu for Pella windows, I can’t help but smile.



    The energy of the girl dancing.
    The simple but powerful message: don’t let what’s happening outside control what’s going on inside.
    It’s such a perfect little reminder, especially in leadership, education, and life.
    There will always be rainy days, unexpected delays, tough conversations, or outside pressures.
    But how we show up inside – our attitude, our creativity, our hope – is something we can choose.
    Let this be your nudge today: Turn up the music. Shake it out. Reclaim your energy.
    Even if it’s raining. 🌧️

  • Embracing the ‘Find’ Journey in 2025

    Embracing the ‘Find’ Journey in 2025

    A #OneWORD Challenge

    Stepping into 2025, the word “Find” resonates deeply, embodying my journey of exploration and self-discovery. This past year, it served as a quiet guide, a personal mantra that helped me navigate the uncertainties and challenges of 2024. Now, I’m ready to embrace “Find” with renewed intention, seeking the unknown with open arms and a curious mind.

    What Does “Find” Mean to Me?

    “Find” is more than just a word; it’s a commitment to step outside my comfort zone, to challenge assumptions, and to dive deeper into the world around me. It’s about uncovering hidden passions and talents, peeling back the layers to reveal my authentic self. “Find” is about:

    • Exploration: Stepping outside my comfort zone and embracing the unknown. This resonates deeply with me, especially through my love for off-roading. There’s something truly liberating about navigating challenging terrain, pushing my limits, and discovering hidden gems along the way. Every bump in the road, every steep incline, every unexpected obstacle has become a metaphor for life’s challenges. And overcoming them has not only built resilience but also revealed a passion for adventure I never knew I had.
    • Curiosity: Asking questions, challenging assumptions, and digging deeper. It’s about that insatiable thirst for knowledge, that drive to understand the “why” behind everything. This year, I want to cultivate my curiosity, to approach the world with a beginner’s mind, and to never stop asking questions. So as I learn a new subject, explore a different culture, or simply engage in meaningful conversations, I want to embrace the wonder of discovery.
    • Self-Discovery: Uncovering hidden passions, talents, and values. It’s about peeling back the layers and unearthing the authentic self within. To “find” myself means actively engaging in introspection, exploring new experiences, and reflecting on the lessons learned along the way. This year, I’m committed to excavating those hidden depths, embracing my strengths, acknowledging my vulnerabilities, and ultimately, understanding who I truly am.
    • Connection: Finding common ground with others and building meaningful relationships. It’s about recognizing the shared humanity that binds us together, despite our differences. This year, I want to foster deeper connections with the people in my life, to cultivate empathy and understanding, and to build a strong community of support.

    Finding My Trail

    This year, I’m committed to “finding” in every aspect of my life:

    Professionally, I’ll push myself to find new ways to contribute my skills and knowledge, master new technologies and strategies, and embrace opportunities that align with my evolving goals. Personally, I’ll dedicate time for introspection and self-reflection, pursue hobbies and activities that spark joy and fulfillment, and prioritize my mental and physical well-being. Creatively, I’ll seek inspiration in unexpected places, experiment with new mediums and techniques, and push the boundaries of my imagination.

    Why “Find”?

    This year, “Find” is more than just a word; it’s an invitation to join me on a journey of self-discovery. It’s about embracing the unknown, pushing boundaries, and uncovering the hidden gems within ourselves and the world around us.

    Want a symbol of this journey?

    I’ve created a “Find Your Trail” sticker as a reminder to keep seeking, keep exploring, and keep discovering. If you’d like one, send your #oneword and why (plus your address) to laura@laurakspencer.com and I’ll gladly send a sticker your way. Let’s embrace the adventure of “finding” our way together.

    What are you hoping to find this year? Share your thoughts and aspirations in the comments below!

  • Embracing the Air: Lessons from a Bumpy Ride

    Embracing the Air: Lessons from a Bumpy Ride

    I’ve always believed that some of life’s most valuable lessons are learned not in moments of triumph but in those where we stumble, falter, or in this case, quite literally, catch some air. This photo captures one such moment, a split second where my Land Rover Discovery decided to defy gravity (and perhaps common sense) during a recent off-roading adventure.

    The climb was challenging, the terrain unforgiving. I’d misjudged a line, and suddenly, I found myself staring at the sky through my windshield. There was a brief, heart-stopping moment of weightlessness, followed by a landing that left me wondering if I’d bitten off more than I could chew.

    Now, you might be thinking, “Isn’t this a blog about education? Why are we talking about off-roading?” Well, for me, the two are inextricably linked. Off-roading, like life, is a journey filled with unexpected twists, turns, and the occasional airborne surprise. It’s about pushing boundaries, testing limits, and yes, making the odd mistake along the way.

    But here’s the thing: mistakes aren’t failures. They’re opportunities. Opportunities to learn, to grow, and to become better, more capable versions of ourselves. That airborne moment taught me a valuable lesson about humility, about the importance of careful planning, and about how important it is to listen to the people who are there to help.

    So, next time you find yourself facing a challenge, remember this image. Remember that even when things go a bit sideways (or upwards), there’s always a chance to learn, to adapt, and to keep moving forward. Sometimes the best navigation comes from heeding the advice of those around us. Life’s journey isn’t about avoiding bumps in the road; it’s about embracing them, learning from them, and using those lessons to fuel our growth. And if you happen to catch a little air along the way, well, that’s just part of the adventure, a reminder that even the most experienced among us can benefit from a little humility and a helping hand.